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The fringe

Hiding the fringe (or what mainstream culture may consider the fringe) may very well promote civil acceptance by the "don't care what they do as long as they don't do it in front of me" crowd. However, it seems to me like there's a better solution.

What good does the fringe do for civil acceptance? It pushes out the boundaries of "acceptable." Everybody's a little bit different from the norm -- the question is, how much deviation is okay? The more of us who can demonstrate that we're outside of "acceptable deviation," the more people will start rethinking their definitions of acceptable and deviation.

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This post is dedicated to Pat Califia, who's made this point more clearly more than once (most notably, in my mind, in the introduction to _Doing_It_For_Daddy_).