sev's Labels and Sexuality

Bisexuality: when gender is a different kind of factor

Feminism: the empowerment of women is good for everyone

Fetish: reclaiming sensuality

Kink: what it is that some of us do

Polyamory: multiple responsible committed loves

Queer: more than just politics

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Biphobia

Those people who feel that bisexuals are "contaminated" are a minority in the queer world. They are there, yes, but they're so loud that they're easy to avoid.

Ignore them; they don't have all that much power to begin with. Their rejection hurts, but they *don't* *matter*. I mean, you wouldn't want to get close to someone like that anyway, right? I certainly don't waste my time on them; I can't avoid feeling hurt once in awhile, but the satisfaction I get out of interacting with people who *don't* hold bigoted ideas about bisexuals is *more* than enough to assuage the hurt of those who do.

Sure, there are lesbians who don't like bi's, straights who don't like bi's, bi's who don't like anybody, straights who don't like anybody, whatever.

The generalization (that non-bisexual queers dislike bisexuals) makes me want to scream. It's inaccurate.

Many people look at a group and only see the hatred actively coming from a few people and don't' notice that most of the group couldn't care less whether you like girls because you're bi or because you're a lesbian ...and completely miss those who are actually exuding good-will.

Think about those people who hate. Remember that they're a minority. Do you want them to win? If so, go ahead and hide. Otherwise, *ignore them*.