Weblog Entry - 02/28/2002: "dealing with uncertainty"

02/28/2002 Entry: dealing with uncertainty

I just don't understand how people do this.

I regularly have things I set aside because I don't have what I need to deal with them properly. And they sit there until it becomes clear that I'm *never* going to get what I need, at which point I've got to go forward and get hit with the consequences of a) not having sufficient information or resources and b) having put it off. It's not like I'm sitting around with my thumb up my ass in the meantime -- I'm trying to figure out how to do things without having them suck.

I keep reading books on procrastination, and none of them mention how to handle this.

I put things off because I know trying to do them when I don't know what I'm doing will suck. And lo and behold, over and over again, it does indeed suck, which just justifies my desire to try to find a way to make these things not suck *before* I do them.

Which makes them suck more.

Why do people expect me to know how to deal with these things when nobody seems to be able to explain them? I'm so tired of asking "how do I do that?" and hearing "I don't know, figure it out, and then do it, it's important." And then hearing, "why do you suck so much? Why can't you look before you leap, and why did it take so long?" when I blunder forward without the direction I sought.

Is there an encyclopedia of What Grown-ups Are Expected To Know out there somewhere? When do I get the Grown-up Manual? I'm twenty-eight, shouldn't I know how, by now?

Posted by sev @ 10:59 AM PST |

Replies: 2 comments

Sweetie, you sound so frustrated. Sure, someone could write a manual on what grown-ups are *supposed* to know, but there wouldn't be any answers to your/my/everyone's questions. Don't believe anyone who tells you you suck. And don't forget Mom's are more experienced than even grown-up kids and part of our reason-for-being is to listen to our kids, so call and spout off to me. You'll feel better.

Posted by Mom @ 02/28/2002 06:24 PM PST

I must agree, with the comment from Mom of, how frustrated you sound. I, too, get this way and can't seem to understand why it is that with "most of the people" they just "do it", while I struggle with procrastination. I,too, have dug through the internet looking for sure ways to stop it, but find it a little encouraging to know I am not alone.

Hope you don't mind a little company with you :o)
Shai

Posted by Shai @ 03/20/2002 04:00 PM PST

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